I am struck by the power of being passionately connected in life. As a parent getting through to my son and I mean really having his attention is such an important part of passing along my values and helping him honor his strong spirit and mind.
My son is passionately attached to baseball...all things baseball. I had the opportunity to watch his little heart break at the plate over and over again last year. After weeks and months we took slurpees to the field and had a chat. He had started displaying a side of himself never seen before. Nasty defiant and just below the surface self hate. While trying desperately to get through I saw in his little blue eyes his broken heart.
In his then 10 years most every thing he can remember about the game supported that he was good and I mean really good. He was a dependable and serious player. Here he was split in two by his true love. I was so lucky to be present when I saw his heart. I finally got it...he was passionately attached to this game and he sees himself through this game. This was the space where he will learn how he moves in the world and what he is about.
So I did what ever self respecting parent should do...I pounced! This was the hook, this was where I could do my work. The important work of keeping the messages simple. You are continuously choosing who and how you honor the good energy in yourself and the world. Always choosing...I then watched him make some great choices and honored the game and honored his love even though it was no longer a perfect love affair.
My son is passionately attached to baseball...all things baseball. I had the opportunity to watch his little heart break at the plate over and over again last year. After weeks and months we took slurpees to the field and had a chat. He had started displaying a side of himself never seen before. Nasty defiant and just below the surface self hate. While trying desperately to get through I saw in his little blue eyes his broken heart.
In his then 10 years most every thing he can remember about the game supported that he was good and I mean really good. He was a dependable and serious player. Here he was split in two by his true love. I was so lucky to be present when I saw his heart. I finally got it...he was passionately attached to this game and he sees himself through this game. This was the space where he will learn how he moves in the world and what he is about.
So I did what ever self respecting parent should do...I pounced! This was the hook, this was where I could do my work. The important work of keeping the messages simple. You are continuously choosing who and how you honor the good energy in yourself and the world. Always choosing...I then watched him make some great choices and honored the game and honored his love even though it was no longer a perfect love affair.
